I feel the same way sometimes, filled with resentment towards WAW, thinking I'll be better off without her. But I always come back because I want to restore my M more than any other possibility. I'm sure you feel the same way. And while your M isn't over or hopeless until you decide that it is, it's important you know that reconciliation is not our only hope for happiness.
From what I've read from you, it's sounds like someone will be lucky to be with you in the future, whether it's your WAH or another man.
How's the kitty?
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23