So I see that most desire for change I think is motivated by fear, instead of faith, and should therefore be avoided.
Interesting, I could argue that resistance to change is motivated by fear. That we humans prefer consistency, security in the known. That's why strangers are viewed dubiously until proven,for example.
For myself, being honest, I was very habituated and therefore very comfy with my w, the usual course of our R. I am a man of habit, whether good habits or bad, I am consistent.
What I see now, about that comfort, is that it kept both of us stuck. We trained each other in how to respond and react to keep peace, avoid conflict...MN Nice in overdrive I guess.
Until summer 2013, I feared change, I feared what I am having to do right now with the divorce, the finances, etc. I wanted my old life, my "real" W back, go back to what was comfy, known, EASY.
So maybe our mlc-ers changed out of fear, but it is likely that we didn't/don't change out of fear as well. KWIM?
And ask away about my choices, I'm a pretty open book.
Is it possible that this was put before you to open you up to change, that this is Him showing you something He wants you to learn?
Last edited by TSquared2; 11/08/1403:52 AM.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
