Don't know if I belong here....

[Okabe]

So far I have been polite and friendly. The only physical contact I have been doing is a brief hand on the shoulder or upper back sometimes when I come to tell her something. I can talk with her about her schooling, our kids, current events, and household tasks in a perfectly friendly manner. However if I say anything related to me (like something I thought was funny or work) she doesn't respond.
She is making plans for the future that hinge on me (insurance, vacation), but I still have no idea if she plans to stay or go. She only ever told me "I don't know" (which is better than saying she wants a divorce) . I know she has to decide what to do and I cannot control that.
I know she told me that she knows I have tried to be a good husband. I do the cooking, cleaning, pay the bills, and help with my boys. I try to do thoughtful things: I had got our wedding photo enlarged, made black and white and put in an antique frame. I sometimes randomly will pick her up a treat or little gift (something inexpensive).
But when it comes to the affection, intimacy, and time together I really have failed.
I will back off and work on myself. I've already been loosing weight.