It's all out there now...She admitted to me last weekend that BOTH affairs were sexual. In fact, with OM2, she was his first.
As I've said in previous posts on the other thread, and as many others on here have worked through before, I assumed this was the case early on and asked myself then whether we could recover our marriage or if that was the end. It really depended on her attitude towards my GAL-ing and whether she wanted to recommit to our marriage, which I honestly believe she does. She has shown what I believe to be sincere remorse many times, and the fact that she is coming clean (albeit a slow process) is a huge step.
We did have the conversation about her online communications and I told her that I wouldn't tolerate it. I can say that I have yet to come across anything inappropriate since that conversation using my usual methods of verification.
We have been spending a lot of QT together, and talking about how things got the way they were when she felt the need to seek other men for her needs while I was away. As far as intimacy goes, she admits to being hesitant, saying she feels, "dirty," or like, "used goods." Something else to work on I guess.
I am optimistic for what's to come, and while I am not quite ready to call this a divorce busting, I do think the advice you all have provided me and the content of the Divorce Remedy have been key to turning my W back to me.
