DB'ing struggles...New attitude...

[sandi2]

Okay, I'll respond, but you may not like what I have to say. DBing works. But you have not applied DBing. It doesn't work unless you actually do it. It is not about what you think should work......but doing what gets the right results. DBing is counterintuitive.

You have completely operated out of your own emotions. You aren't detached, and until you become detached, you will not be able to DB.

I don't usually encourage physical separation, however, some times it is needed in order for other things to happen. Maybe staying away from her physically would help you think better and get stronger emotionally. Unfortunately, you are teaching your son how a man responds to a woman when she is through with him........and it's not the role model he needs.

Have you been to a doctor about your anxiety? There is medication to help you. Do it immediately.

You aren't sure she's a WAW? Did you read the book? It is the attitude, what's in her heart.....and believe me, she has walked away in her heart. You need to get your head out of the sand and start dealing with the truth as it is.....not like you wish it was.

There is nothing attractive in a needy, emotionally attached man who has to be reassured by his W (who is doing another man). NOTHING!!! And forget about the fact she can have sex with you. It means nothing to her, except your body parts happen to be available.

You are doing things that drive her farther away.....if possible. What is wrong with you? Can't you see this behavior doesn't work for you? Stop it!

You have to help yourself, and that includes GAL. No excuses. Do you even have a life that is not tied to her in some way?

If snooping makes you worse emotionally with her, then do you know what you need to do?

You said nothing worked in the beginning, not even the DB.......but you can't claim if you don't use it.

Mind reading. Different actions she takes or doesn’t take cause me to read deeper into things. When I get in to my zoned in on my DB’ing efforts, these types of things cause me to waver and give in so to speak; When I think to myself “ do not say goodnight or I love you” she says goodnight 1st. When she says I love you 1st, although I feel good about it, I over think it and wonder if she really does. When she is intimate with me, I wonder…does she really want this? Or is she using it to keep me at bay? Overall, I find myself thinking, what can I do to make this better. Even though I KNOW that I can’t do anything about it

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Don't believe the ILY's, or put meaning to her saying goodnight first (OMG!), or that she tolerates sex with you. It means nothing! She is a WAW!

So now that that's cleared up, what is your next step? How about looking at the 37 rules. These are the actions you need to implement now.

Get legal advise and protect yourself financially. Seebwhat your rights as a father are in your staye. In other words, get your affairs in order now.....and don't wait around to see what she may do.