Expect that your perspective on your marriage and separation will have to change drastically. Your explanations do not add up to what is happening to you. If she left you, it means she wasn't getting something inside the marriage. It's more useful for you and your chances to reconcile to think about the things you've done to get there, because that's where you can act.
Start exploring her perspective. If she were here to tell us why you two separated, what would she say?
(Also, quit pursuing ASAP - she hates it!)
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
