However, Peter did say himself that the porn was a huge issue in their marriage before things unraveled to the degree that they are now. That, and the fact that he was dismissive of her concerns when she shared them with him.
How is that any different from other complaints our spouses had about us prior to BD?
It's not, which is why I'm perfectly consistent on this one. I also advise betrayed spouses to work on "the issues that 'sting'" (as Cadet and others over on the MLC forum so beautifully put it), and NOT on those "hoop-jumping" things that their wayward spouses might be CLAIMING are a long-held marital complaint, in some effort to woo them back. My first post on this above said that if PETER thinks this is something he should work on, he should do it. That's all I was trying to say.
