To my way of thinking, doing things for the kids (picking up their bunkbeds), doesn't equal "helping" XW.

To the kids it looks like mom and dad are working together for their benefit.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss