Seems like she's still torn. That's fine; it's not your job to persuade her anymore, the ball is in her court. If she wants to make the move back toward commitment to the marriage and to the family, you've certainly left the door open, Sho.
I think it's Schnarch who calls this "letting them remain in the crucible." As a "pleaser" type myself, I'm forever trying to DIFFUSE situations and their moments of discomfort, but sometimes it's best to let it be, and let the person deal with their conflicting feelings.
