Yes. As Maybell said, a lot of the problem has to do with the secrecy of it.
And I do think that for Peter, a great 180 would be for him to quit and find healthier avenues of getting his needs met.
(No, Mr. Starsky, not hookers! )
Letting his wife know that he understands how much it bothers her, and that he is willing to address it would go a long way with her, I'm sure.
Especially if he actually DOES quit. Wow... What I would give to have my H volunteer to do that and pull it off!
If Peter is viewing porn regularly and had an issue with not doing so, even when he and his W were together and he knew it bothered her, what does that tell us?
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PS: OK. I just looked at my wording above and started chuckling. I'm waiting to see if any of you catch it. And no, I am not going to edit it out. It was too funny!
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
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