Gogofo - no longer piecing 2nd BD

[gogofo]

W came to pick up kids this morning. I was pleasant, asked a couple of questions about her and her cousins' visit, talked about some truck repairs I have going, and talked about our oldest's first quarter report in school.

I wished her a good day out of town (on the trip I was supposed to attend) and left.

She gave me an interesting look when I told her I hoped she had fun, maybe she didn't expect it (I don't know). I meant it and I do hope she gets a handle on her feelings and emotions and I hope they level out.

My talk last night with my DB Coach went well and was inspiring, but they always are. She gave me some hope when assessing my W's actions, even when signing papers. She said she did not sound like someone who is ready for D, but she may have made a decision in a highly emotional state which is not a good idea.

She also said that she needs space and that she probably did feel pressured by me when working on the R. When she didn't feel pressured by me she was feeling calm and enjoying our R, but when pressured she feels uncomfortable with her angry feelings and does not like how she feels.

Hopefully we can talk on Saturday about how she feels. I just want to listen and my coach guided me on some things to say and not to say and good questions to ask to understand how she feels.

One big tip she gave me is to ask what she needs, NOT what she needs from ME, but what she needs right now. And if she said she does not know, instead of offering suggestions (like I have in the past and backfired) just let her know that when she comes up with something to let me know.

GAL tonight is to watch my college football team try to win, emphasis on try. Tomorrow is to try and finish up all that I can on my bathroom vanity plumbing.