Interesting topics. Something that men and women often see very differently IMO.
Love, to me, a woman, is a feeling. It is something that I can experience without input from anything or anyone else. It isn't something that needs to be reciprocated in order for me to feel it, although it is nice if that happens.
Actions, are then attached to love. And that is where the confusion can arise.
Some actions, very clearly and easily show our love for someone else. Hand holding, kissing, etc...
Some actions are more difficult to recognize as loving acts, unless they fit in with our love language... gifts, holding a door open...
And other actions...while viewed as loving by one person, are often viewed as acts of obligation by the other person in a relationship...
I picked something out of one of your earlier threads...
Originally Posted By: Wet on 7/1
Over the last year of our separation (all pre-DB), I started by insisting that she kiss me on the lips, and she would only give me her cheek. I insisted because we are married for so many years, and I am the father of our four children, I should always have kissing privileges. But it was not a very good argument as I never got a kiss from her.
I can't say that I blame her...
How do you define that action...as loving? as obligatory? or as something else?
So I will ask you again a bit differently...
What does love LOOK like to you?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
