I always have mine close by. This is the list I keep next to my bed. I also have it saved on my phone.
When I made my list, I realized how much of this was lost, because I gave it away. Quite freely, as it turns out.
In order to move through this, you'll have to find out who you really are, deep in your core. Who is the real Ss?
Before the R. Before the M. Before being mom. Before any job.
When you lose sight of who you really are, you begin to react to things from a place of fear. Fear-based reactions and decisions, are seldom those that serve us well.
Reactions that are based on emotion are reactions that are NOT based on who you really are.
What that means, is when you react? You are taking away the things about yourself, from that list, that no one else can take.
That's how you lose who you are. And then, you become afraid to be who you are.
So, the list....use it to guide you. Determine exactly who you want to be.
What things about yourself do you want to keep?
What are your values that you are not willing to sacrifice no matter what?
What are you willing you put up with?
Who is the person you want to be able to look back on in 40-50 years?
When you get a clear picture of who that is, and what that looks like, it becomes effortless to make decisions based on who you are. The fear falls away.
When I decided who I was and who I wanted to be, I started "practicing" on people.
Not for their reaction, though. For me.
What happened, was that people began to see me differently. They TREATED me differently. It was quite amazing how that worked.
I'm excited for you to see this. I have a feeling you have tasted this before. It's even yummier now.
Go into this and experiment with zero expectations from other people. Just for you.
One of my favorite, loving dagger-type comments by T to me, was, "IF you don't have any clue who you are and what you want....how can you expect that in return for yourself?"
Goes back to the true friends thing, doesn't it?
Tomorrow, take your pretty little quick-witted self out there and have some fun. Set one goal. Try to show one specific thing, and see how others respond.
Remember who that girl is. Get to know that list. Go get it.
