Sunshine - I am certain it is MLC. That is why I am struggling. I agree that ultimately labels can make us stuck into thinking or behaving in a certain manner.

I am struggling because I am moving forward quickly with a separation and yet I do not believe in divorce, especially if a spouse is in crisis. I am moving forward to protect myself and my children from any more financial harm. Logically this is the right path but emotionally it is hard.

MLC kind of defies description unless you've had firsthand experience. H is still making his own choices and I have accepted all his choices. I am not kicking or screaming at him. I am using LRT and oretty much dark.

This sitch certainly makes me sad. I am in IC, trying to GAL and praying H will find peace and happiness. I love him enough to let go. The sadness comes from feeling like H is not well. Yes I am simplifying but it feels lousy.

M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters
BD: 5/14
Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW
D Final 9/17

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
― Maya Angelou