MLC W Dates, Part V

[Wet]

I see the gears turning. I think that it might be useful to think about these a bit more and re-read them a little later, Wet. Say, a year from now.

Wet: I am feeling like a little fishy surrounded by three veteran Sharks (AJ, T^2, and Mach1), and the sharks smell blood! I know you guys are good and helpful, but dang you can also be intimidating at the same time.

So just a few light questions:

So there is nothing "light" about your q's. They are usually spot on and thoughtful.

I realize you re-worded it later, but let's be honest, you do want a happy ending to your story. And it is no surprise that you see the dangers in divorce. The dangers to your family. The family that you fought for so many years for.

While you're thinking - Do you think it's possible to have a happy ending to your story? Be honest with yourself.

OK, keep using "happy ending", but every time I see it, I'm going to giggle. I really don't know if a 'happy ending' is possible. I know the long odds, with a W who is determined to get away from the marriage. I find that having hope hurts my detaching from the sitch. So right now I really don't think about W or the possibility of ever getting back with her. But with the 3 Shark's questions, it is helping me to remember that DB can work. For this I am grateful.

But right now, my primary focus is my W, and helping her coming thru her MLC by using the most powerful weapon on Earth – prayer.

And I'm curious about this one. When you pray for your W - is it for her? Are there also others you pray for? What does forgiveness look like to you? What are the actions vs. the feelings?

My prayer for my W is evolving. I started praying for W to come back. But over the past month I pray for W to return to God, and to not have a casual view of sin. Oops, my judgmentalism is showing again. I pray for many people in my life, including those on this board.

On forgiveness, I am not ready to forgive yet. But I'm working on it. I understand its importance, and again this is a process. "Actions vs. feelings"? I really have so little contact with W that I don't have the opportunity for either.

I do think you highlighted something - your dislike of change. I wonder is it dislike of change or change you didn't initiate?

I am a turtle. I am slow to initiate change. So yes, I dislike change not initiated by me.

How's the rehab going? Getting healthy?


AJ

Thank you for your concern. It is slow. And I put on 5 lbs of the 10 lbs I initially lost. But I'm starting to feel well enough that I am considering getting back to exercising. I am already going for walks, and regaining some of my strength.