kira, As you walk this journey, you will begin to find the person that you once were, i.e., pre-marriage. Do you ever think about your former self? Do ever wish that you could go back and be that person again? If so, now is the time to make those changes and find your inner self once again. We all tend to lose a part of ourselves in serious relationships, i.e., marriage, etc. We lose some of ourselves in our day-to-day lives because we are so busy w/relationships, work, families, shopping, keeping house, activities of children etc.
What types of things did you enjoy pre-marriage? How can you make your life better? What about that to do list that you never got around to checking off the items and completing?
Dbing is a tool that we all can use in our lives. It's not just used to try to save your marriage, but also to save you, i.e., to help you learn to communicate better and yes, keep your expectations within a normal range w/people.
I think you will find your journey to be enlightening and one that will open your eyes to the world around you, but you have to have an open mind in order to see clearly.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.