Gogofo - no longer piecing 2nd BD

[gogofo]

You really have to stop this kind of behavior. Nobody likes for another person to try to force them to do something. You probably never thought of it as force......more like trying to convince her.

She already knows how you feel. Do you really think it is necessary to go through it again? What if you just kept quite and listened to her? Not express your opinion or disagree with her, just listen without interrupting.

No I never did see it as force, but I can see how it would feel that way to her.

I had been doing a good job at just listening and not interrupting. We had a deep talk about pros, cons, and wants in our relationship. She said she just did not know what to do about our us.

I feel she cares about me and possibly wants to love me again, she just does not know how.

During our talk I made a suggestion that I had some ideas if she was open to them. She said yes and then I described the fondness exercises and she agreed.

I put them off for the next Monday, this was Wednesday night, and we had a great next couple of days.

Then I can see how she could have felt forced by me. It forced her to review our past and brought us to where we are now, with papers signed.

When thinking about how she feels she may feel that it is the only way to get the anger and pain to stop.