The END Hopefully they live happily ever after....

[DFE]

I have had several long years of limbo but it's finally over. I tried my best and I have peace knowing that I did everything to save my marriage and family. We have split everything between ourselves and without an attorney getting involved. Honestly he was more than fair. More fair than I would have been to him. I pretty much got everything that I wanted but I am still not at peace with it. I need advice.

I know that it's over but I haven't fully accepted it. I guess that comes with time. I have two issues now. One is the kids. We told them the other night and they are having a tough time with it. They want to move out and live with their grandparents. They hate this house. It breaks my heart. They finally said it was because they were sad that he was leaving. I have assured them that it will all be okay and that the only change will be where their dad sleeps. He will continue to be a big part of their lives. My STBX says that I shouldn't have told them and that I was wrong. I read too many magazines and talk to too many shrinks and by telling them I upset them. I disagree I think he upset them by leaving.

Second issue is I am so angry at him that I can't and don't want to make eye contact with him. He got upset about that today and can't understand why I can't be a mature adult about it and co-parent with him. He wants me to be his friend and I just don't have it in me. Am I wrong? Am I being immature? It feels like I am losing a family member despite all of our arguments and his insensitivity towards me. I need time to process it all. Am I wrong? Do I need to be his friend? He is a good person just one that didn't love me.