Thanks for your words job!

I am definitely not making changes to please him - I need to really be me. I think, whatever he is going though, true MLC or maybe something else... he became disilusioned with how we'd become...and I think that the changes I make for myself will better my relationship with others (it already has with my mother, who I had a very hard time facing about things I disagreed with and it let me to get angry with H. Even if there was a reason to disagree I was always angry too quickly too much....I think in the back of my mind I knew that.
So now I am working on that aspect of me and found it between - easy almost to go her and say what I feel!