On the brink, need a miracle

[Onguard]

Thanks Starsky. It is definitely time for me to man up. I have been walking on eggshells hoping that she has an awakening and things are only getting worse. I am going to tell her that she needs to find a place to live asap. Obviously I cannot force her to leave the home but would enforcing a boundary be a smart move? For example, at 1am all doors will be locked, the lights will be out and the alarm will be set. So plan accordingly.

D13 knows that things are really bad with us. I am trying to be a great dad to her but she is somewhat closed off right now. It's a balancing act of showing her love and giving her space. I am doing all I can to make her feel safe and to show her how to handle a crisis with dignity and respect. It's the strength part that I have been severely lacking to this point.

I see many similarities between some of the other stories (Shodan and Zew) and my own. In all instances we have a waw that is not remorseful and will / would not commit to the M. Trying to nice them back will never work. Trying to nice them back will never work!! If I say it again and again, maybe it will sink in. I have to get tough and be willing to lose it all in order to have ANY chance at saving it. My w does not fear losing me. She has had NO consequences for her A. She does not respect me. Her life, other than losing her ap, has not changed at all. I would certainly prefer that our M work but it takes 2 people, willing to do the hard work to make that happen. I have no choice but to take steps to move forward without her.