Need Help before I blow a fuse.

[20&lost]

Met with DB coach this morning. He had some great advice.I need to stop doing things out of fear with my W. In her state she will be mad at anything so to start being yourself and take fear out of the equation and quit worrying about how she reacts. Also need to be more mysterious but do not do anything stupid that could come back to haunt me. I did she a jealous attitude on Monday when I told her I was going to meet some of the boys to watch the first half of the NFL football game. She said "Fine, hope you have fun" very sarcastically and with a little anger. I am still in a pickle as far as hiring a PI. The coach said that is not in the best interest of DBing but my L says I need independent proof of the A to protect myself if my M ends up heading to a D because if my W asks for a D and I have no solid proof of the A I'm screwed. I am am pretty certain (gut) she has met the OM a number of times over the last few weeks but I am not 100% sure. I also have no proof that the EA has gone to a PA but again I suspect it. Any thoughts?