Yes, I guess that was a lot of thinking about what she should do.
What is killing me is not knowing what she is feeling. I wish we were in a spot where we could share more than "I am angry". There seems to be so many things about "I am angry" that has me making assumptions.[quote/] Why is it some important to know exactly what she's feeling? She probably doesn't know. If you knew how she was feeling, how would that change things?
It's more important for you to know what you're feeling.
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My fear is that she will go to a lawyer and get the papers drawn up. I know she has talked to one recently and she said she is tired of the limbo that is our situation. During our last talk we were working on us again, had some good days, and now her changing her plans to be with me. She even invited me to go with her and her cousins and sent me the hotel info on Tuesday morning.
She might go to a L and file. If that's in her mind you can't stop her, so let go of your fear. Fear keeps you in the victim position and is a terrible place to operate from.
[quote]I know she is torn and in pain and I want to help her. Don't know if I can or if I should.
It's not our job to help anyone, unless they ask for it.
There's still a lot of fixing and control surfacing in you.
Why do you think that is?
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From my position it is the WAS that is taking a while to see that things really can be different.
Your absolutely right, I got my acronyms confused.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
