Gogofo, the two of you are not in piecing right now, correct? She has to make the right decision first. She says she wants to work on the M but doesn't know how? Sounds like a weak excuse. With all the information available on the market, I believe she could at least read about "how" to work on it.
This is how I feel too, but I don't know how to bring this up to her. I don't want to scare her away or for her to feel forced into things.
The fondness exercises was my suggestion and day one was okay, day two brought up painful memories and she has now started to pull away again.
I feel MC could help us, but last time I brought it up she didn't seem too keen on the idea. She felt that it was my controlling again and not respecting how she felt.
The past history of our relationship causes her great pain. Our new relationship has been significantly different, which she has noticed and acknowledged, but the good changes bring up anger in her about the past.
She said she doesn't want to feel angry towards me.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
