EA then PA with her ex

[Anaru]

Mr Bond - appreciate your views - the setting/enforcing boundaries is a learning process for me after years of trying to be the nice/rational/normal one in the M and the W the emotional/narcissist. So coming over hard and emotionless is uncomfortable - as is anything outside ones comfort zone.
I am moving in the right direction now - and if I share my missteps - so be it - important thing *I* feel I am making progress.
Toots-I agree - the difficult thing for me with the whole DR ethos was finding the right balance between withdrawing/setting boundaries and maintaining contact/building bridges. I wanted to avoid things falling into a sterile no-contact adversarial relationship. Now I see that all I can do is make my own changes and no contact does not necessarily mean adversarial.