I'd leave it alone. Let him arrive at his own conclusions. You may push him to a very different answer than the one you think you want.

Why do you think he's stuck in the mud?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss