I try to look at both perspectives, but I just don't know the right answer. I agree that it is important to have a good connection with daughter. We need to let her know that she is loved and missed, even when she is not present. However, I do get pretty tired of her calling during dinner time, reading time, bath time, play time, etc. I only have so much time with daughter (1/2 of her life, to be exact), so it is a thorn in my side when wife interrupts even a second of that time. I also see that it puts pressure on Daughter. Wife says, "do you want me to call you everyday". Well, how is daughter supposed to respond to that, "Geee, no mom. I am playing with my friends". It just adds stress, pressure and expectation in my mind. On numerous occasions, I have randomly asked daughter if she wanted to phone her mom. Very rarely does she say yes. Keep in mind, we don't go more than 3-4 days without seeing daughter in person. She has a lot of parent time, for a divorced child. I feel that the phone calls are Wife projecting her own needs onto Daughter. The phone calls are, in my mind, her trying to shed some guilt for choosing to be a part time parent. Regardless of the reasoning, I am just not sure what is in daughters best interest. This is what I am struggling with.
