Hi south. My stich is that W has a 1 bed flat about 25 k away and at the moment she collecst my youngest three from school Monday , Wednesday and Thursday and then cooks for them and leaves before or soon after I get home. On Wednesdays she stays for the night. On Fridays she collect two Ds from home and takes them to hers overnight and drops them home sat pm. She has full access to the house while I'm at work and she does housework while she's home.
I'm not really happy with this arrangement but I have to allow for the kids to get used to the sit ch. W is gone a month and the kids are just getting used to it but I hope to put a more formal plan is place soon. As I have mentioned before she left me to get space and currently text ls and phones me 3/5 times a day. I am detaching like she can't believe and 180s all the time. The gal is a bit different because of the 4 kids and full time job but we shall see.
South. I see a lot of similarities between all Our stories but at the end of the day we are all individuals and how we deal and cope with things are unique to us. I had I/c this morning and she is really pleased at my progress re becoming who I was. It took me along time to realise my part in the marraige breakdown but now I have I will do my best to resolve my issues. I'm not sure my stich can be resolved due to W and I issues but at the end of the day W is my kids mum and I have to treat her as such
