I had many of the same fears you have about split family and loosing contact with children. My kids were with wife and I had little to no contact with them when this started. Best advice I got was to give it time and be the best father you can be and they would figure it out and come back. I now have all three girls living with me and visiting their mom two nights a week. They can choose to go live with their mother.
Do the right thing for your children. Be the best you can be near or far. Eventually the lies will be questioned and your children will return. Stop hoping and dwelling on a fairy tale and live for today, your children, and yourself. Stop showing fear.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"