I just read your thread from the beginning and I think our situations sound similar, with the genders reversed. My H is having a hard time letting go of the past and it continues to get in the way of our recovery. I will update my thread later today with some more about this.
Coincidentally, my H and I also started the same fondness exercise this week. We aren't sharing our thoughts with each other yet; however, H asked me if we could, and I think I may suggest doing so at the end of every week. Maybe using the week for reflection and then coming together to review would work for you and your W?
So far, my H hasn't said anything about it (other than that he's doing the exercises every day) so I don't know if he's struggling with any of the assignments. I had some difficulty with Day 1 myself, because while I think my H has many wonderful qualities, it was difficult to choose one that I feel like is being consistently demonstrated now. But the daily "thought" was very helpful, and I went to that mentally whenever I might have otherwise been upset with H.
It sounds like you are making some progress. Try not to be too discouraged by the inconsistency. From everything I read/hear, that's completely normal.
