Reading your interaction with H, I agree you need to pull back and stop contacting your H as much as possible. I get the feeling that you like many of us, send a message to your spouse expecting a normal, courteous response. When you don't get one you get worried you did something wrong and try to rectify it. Like many of us, I think it may come off as pursuing.
You need to pull back for yourself. Do what is right for you in regards to finances and taxes. Seek your own counsel and make decisions. Only contact him with your needs in regards to those decisions. I would consider married filing separately. Last year I thought I would be mr nice guy and file jointly hoping she would see that it would be better for us if we were together. What she saw was the money returned and not the fact that it was all money I had taken out and that she would have paid more otherwise. This year I will take my own advice and not bail her out again.
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