EA then PA with her ex

[Anaru]

Yep - which is why I am moving upstairs.
Anyway - what's not to get?
I hate what she has done and her continued indifference to the damage she has caused is killing me - but at the same time you don't just stop loving someone overnight (after 20yrs marriage).
So it's hard not to keep reaching out to her. Old habits die hard.
The move to the attic is for me - to help me keep enforcing my boundaries.
I think it steps like these (telling kids/MIL/bank) that are helping me to force myself to move forward because then it is not all just within my head and a matter of self discipline.
It's like keeping up an exercise schedule of running. Half the battle is just getting out the door.
Same with GAL/moving on - it is about external action, not thoughts and emotion - and I spent the last 2 months in that inertia phase of hoping that she would see sense and do what she said she would (end things with OM).
So I am turning a corner