Gwen sounds like u are trying to figure out if it's mlc for sure. You are trying to convenice yourself it is. Truth is it doesn't matter. As for your marriage, no marriage is perfect and I'm sure u have things to work on within yourself. In my opinion I think labeling a person as mlc, causes us to become stuck. Waiting and putting our lives on hold hoping the person will snap out of it. Gwen if u do this, u will forever be in the same place. He obviously is unhappy, whatever the reason. The sooner u let him go, the sooner he will figure this out. He needs to miss his family, unfortunately u and the kids suffer from this, but there is no other way around it. I think they lump everything together, they don't want to be reminded of their decision. Out of site, out of mind. Some can handle it, some can't (speaking of being with kids here). Believe it or not, their decision to leave is hard for them, they are very unsure. That's why it's so important to step away and say ok if this is what u want......then ok. Now did I do this?......nope AND I am divorced. I went kicking and screaming. I am not gonna say this us the whole reason for my divorce......but it sure couldn't have hurt to trust in the ones that went thru it before me.
