Do you realize she told you her issue and you ignored it?
"You want it that way out of convenience for you".
Yes, you help the kids “get to and from school two or three times a week” but what is she doing before you get there? And…who gets them to school when you don’t?
Okay, you have asked that “all the kids be ready when you come by so you don’t have to make two pick-ups” from her house in the morning because “you need to be to work on time” but who do you think has the stress of enforcing this request?
The kids or your wife?
So when the kids aren’t ready and you get annoyed…who do you think you are criticizing?
Let me translate what you said this morning: “Wife, you have failed in your job to get the kids ready…AGAIN!”
Again, we go back to your problem-solving issues.
If the teen likes to sleep later and isn’t ready when you get there then your issue is with the teen. Not your wife.
You are the father—go deal with it. If the other kids are lollygagging around instead of getting ready…and this is delaying you…go take care of it.
Why are you angry at your wife?
She’s not the problem. Your kids are the problem. They know what time you will be there. Why are they disrespecting you? Why are you letting them? Why are you angry at your wife because you have allowed your kids to treat you like this?
Don’t blame your wife. You are an equal partner in the raising of your children. When there is a problem with the kids your first instinct should be to work with your wife and develop a successful strategy to deal with the problem.
Not blame your wife for becoming angry at your passive parenting.
The truth is—your wife isn’t the person pointing out self-centered behavior.
