afraid I have waited too long #4

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Well, My L received a letter from W L basically saying we are too far apart and my W has decided to break off negotiations until we can go to court next June which is her 2 year S date.

My S date is May of this year so 2 yrs wouldn't be up till 2016.

Reading his responses to my L letter was pretty disturbing. I guess he is putting her wishes in writing same as my L is doing for me but I can't lie it stings a bit when it starts out with him saying W wishes to refute my claims because of such and such and is highly offended that I would try to insult her intelligence by proposing certain things. I am paraphrasing here but it went like this thoughout the whole letter.

I just wish that my W would talk a little to me leaving the L's out of it and maybe we can save ourselves both some money.

Unfortunately, My W has said about 3 times that she can't talk to me because it will give me the wrong idea. I have told her a couple of times that I can't and won't stop her from doing what she feels is necessary for her well being but we should at least be able to talk civilly about certain aspects of the D and understanding that we can agree to disagree without a world war starting.

We have had 2 discussions by my count about property distribution and the house. The first talk went relatively smoothly but she got upset when I showed her what I did at her request and the reality of numbers didn't add up to what she thought they would. The 2nd conversation was a disaster because it was confrontational when evidence of the OM was brought to light.

I still have the Spousal support hearing so that should be interesting.

I got some small bad new tonight. My Father will start undergoing treatment for Bladder Cancer soon. It should be no problem according to the Doctors and a full recovery is expected but it still is a bit scary. I receive this news before I saw the correspondence from W's L and I was mulling over whether I should inform my W of the situation but now I know that I shouldn't.

An already bad situation has just gotten a little harder and then add my Father's health concerns and it is gonna get even more delicate.