It just feels like all of my own bad choices, disappointments, destroyed dreams are perpetuating themselves on my son now.
WTH? That doesn't even make sense Mish! C'mon, give yourself a break. You're a damn good Mom. He WILL find a way! My kid got suspended from University and now works about 4 hours a week, sadly enough but I know that she will find her way. I just have to love her and be there for her while she searches. Easy to say, I know...harder to do! Hang in there.