Mindsin - pt. 5 (back to basics)

[mindsin]

Sigh. The fact that you added the "MAY be due to my changes" part is what makes it mindreading. That shouldn't have even crossed your mind at all.

"May be", and "Is" are two different things. One is mindreading. The other is wondering and acknowledging that "true" and "false" are equally likely.

Yes you have to monitor positive interactions but you take it to the extreme.

That's your opinion, and I disagree.

Have you really read the books? They document what's going on, sure, but you will also notice that many people are advised to stop looking at every action their spouse does.

Yes I have read DR. And again, I don't note every action that my spouse does, just the ones that I feel are worth mentioning.

It would be different if you were to change some behavior and then document it's result. Prove that there is a correlation between the two. But right now all you do is list everything she does.

I did change my behavior, since my last DB coaching session. I've been documenting its results since the beginning of this thread. And again, I am not listing EVERYTHING she does. NOT...EVEN...CLOSE.

For someone who works with people as a job, you seem to have a difficult time understanding what others are communicating to you.

Ever think that perhaps it's YOU who has a difficult time effectively communicating with others? They have seminars for that.