Mindsin - pt. 5 (back to basics)

[MrBond]

Sigh. The fact that you added the "MAY be due to my changes" part is what makes it mindreading. That shouldn't have even crossed your mind at all.

Yes you have to monitor positive interactions but you take it to the extreme.

"How is that different than what 99% of everyone else is doing on their own threads?"

Have you really read the books? They document what's going on, sure, but you will also notice that many people are advised to stop looking at every action their spouse does.

It would be different if you were to change some behavior and then document it's result. Prove that there is a correlation between the two. But right now all you do is list everything she does. For someone who works with people as a job, you seem to have a difficult time understanding what others are communicating to you.