Hi everyone just an update. Had a bit of good fortune at work, so that was gladly recieved Kids up and down but we are keeping the games going and have a good time generally We have good times and it seems easier to keep my mind clear of negative thoughts for much longer while with kids and even when I'm alone. I think the detachment is helping greatly is this regard. I read all the posts on here and we all seem to be struggling with our good days and bad My good now out weigh my bad but only just !!!! I'm thinking the ratio will improve with time. As I improve as a person I look back and see how a lot of my actions made this sitch come to pass. I hope that accepting my errors and flaws ( to put it kindly ) will spur me on to continue to improve and become the best me I can be Tough to see yourself as you were and realise that you wernt perfect after all !!!!

Thanks to all who read this and offer any thoughts. Take care all