Thanks Georgia! Got a call this AM on my way to pick up D14 to take her to school. D19 called to ask about plans for Thanksgiving. She works in retail and they want her to come in at 7:30 TG night to get things set up for Black Friday (I think they may even open at midnight as so many places do now a days. He boyfriend won't be there so she wanted to know what the plans were. Thing is, according to what my W's lawyer sent my lawyer, W was supposed to have D14 for TG and I have her for X-Mass this year. But D14 told me that her mom has said that she may go see her father (alone) and that would leave her with me on TG. As I don't have ANY family but in-laws and my D's here I have no idea what plans my W had or if I was invited to the usual family thing we have done in the past. Well, my D19 doesn't drive so someone will need to pick her up (she lives about 40 miles from me and 70 miles from W) and get her back to town in time for her to get to work at 7:30! All I could tell her was that I have no idea what the plans are yet and she should talk to her mom about what she has planned.
At this D19 said that she hasn't had ANY contact with her mom (not even texts) in weeks and the few times she has tried she hasn't gotten any response from W. That is so sad but her R with her mom isn't my business and I need to stay out it! I did tell her that if her mom has plans for her and her sister and it excludes her being able to get back in time for work, I would pick her up and we would do TG together! I don't want her to be all alone on her first TG away from home! She said she would try to get in touch with her mom and let me know what is up. So, this morning I asked D14 if she had heard what W had planned for TG and she didn't know. D14 had told me at one point that her mother had told her she may go see her dad but D14 hasn't a clue. I told her that if her mom is going away then maybe her and I could go and pick up her sister and do TG just the 3 of us and she was cool with that.
TG was always my W's favorite holiday. She didn't like X-mass because of all the pressure to get gifts for everyone but TG was just everyone getting together for fellowship. I don't want my D19 to feel so left out of her own family and to be alone would just s@ck! Ugh! I just hate this. This kind of thing was something I never thought I would ever need to worry about but now the new reality is here with all the "who gets the kids when" crap that comes with D. Just another thing on the plate to worry about! Oh, and to give some indication of just how angry D19 is at her mom when I said her mom was supposed to get D14 for TG she said "Well, I'm over 18 and I get to choose where to go and who I want to spend my time with!" in a way that clearly said that she didn't want that to be her mom.
