Your children would probably benefit from a good pediatric psychologist. Like you, they are feeling a lack control. The uncertainty about the future, poor understanding of what is happening in the present, and fear of the unknown are very taxing on the children. A psychologist can help the kids decipher what is currently happening in terms they understand, provide a venue for them to vent and decompress, and help defuse their fears by providing practical coping strategies.
I am not certain whether your W should have input into choosing the psychologist. It might be a way to maintain a connection. Other board members can weigh in on this.
