My Wife Filed Today

[FunDad]

I had some criticism thrown at me from the wife today during pick ups. I help get them to & from school two or three times a week. I've asked that all the kids be ready when I come by so I don't have to make two pick-ups from her house in the morning (I need to be at work on time). The teen was still showering and not ready. She was starting to anger up a bit and said "You want it that way out of convenience for you". I was not ready for her rude comment and I wish I would have handled it better. I said, "So now I'm on convenience trial?" and told her I'll be back in a bit and I left. I thought about asking her to take the teen herself, but I came back and got him after dropping off my two D's. I think it's reasonable to want to avoid several trips, but she's convinced I'm being selfish on this aspect. The teen likes to sleep later and it gives him an extra 15 min if I make two pick ups. It makes it harder on me to get around town and back to work on time however. The W seems to look for things like that to point out that I'm being self-centered.

I've learned the better response on a firey dart like that is to simply say "I understand". Instead I pushed her back, when I could have acknowledged her feelings. At least I did not stick around and argue with her however.