MrBond - Yes. Please re-read the last thing I posted about how our marriage became non-monogamous.
Update: Things have been going well(?). Last weekend W and I and children had family pictures done with a close friend on Sunday. Afterwards kids, W and I went for pizza. Pictures were a little weird / strained, but I did my best, PMA all the way. Pizza was good. Toward end, kids ran off to play and W and I talked for a few mins. I told her it upset me and hurt my feelings that she is dating. She said me not dating was something she is weighing in her 'decision'. She said she had a great day and wants to continue doing this (separated, sharing the house, trading each week)until the kids graduate.
All I could think was HOW UNFAIR. My thoughts were raging with how nice it must be for her to be doing what she wants, with a husband and father at home to keep the kids, do the laundry, make lunches, help with homework, cook dinner, read bedtime stories, while she dates, and stays out late drinking, and keeps me on the hook of 'I want a divorce, but maybe not, but I definitely don't want to reconcile or acknowledge my responsibility, and I'm enjoying dating...blah blah blah'. Cake eating.
YES - I realize this is victim moaning. BUT, I didn't say any of this to her. I just smiled, said I understand you feel that way, and continued with my evening with the children after she left.
Now, get this, it's my week at the house with the children. She watches our youngest during the day, and picks up oldest from school, then when I get home at 5:30 she is supposed to leave. I get home yesterday and she's all dressed up. Says she's going to a local musician's show with friends I know. Great, have fun! I say. I'm in the back of the house when she leaves.
Later, after dinner, I step out to my car, and there is a truck I've never seen parked in front of my house. Not my neighbor's house, directly in front of my house.
I texted W and said "do you know who's truck this is in front of our house?" and received no answer what so ever. W ignored me.
It was a guy she was on a date with to the show with OUR friends.
She had him park his truck in front of our house and ride with her. Came back by the house sometime between 1 am and 6 am to drop guy off to get his truck.
How in the world should I react to this? This morning, when she arrived at the house to watch youngest so I could take oldest to school and go to work, I was pleasant and didn't mention anything.
But, GEEZ, really?! I feel like I'm being majorly disrespected. How would any of you address this? I don't want to push W away, but I also don't want to be completely disrespected and walked all over.
She had this date park and leave his truck in front of our house to go on a date with me and our children at home.
And now, she is asking if I'll watch kids overnight on Saturday on her weekend with kids. No explanation why. I'm going to tell her I already have plans, and I'm going to be out of town. And then I'll actually go out of town.
I have to vent. She is being incredibly selfish, self-centered, disrespectful, and rude, to me and our family.
I don't know how to set a boundary here without being condescending or a jerk. This is not ok with me. At all. How can I convey that in a way that preserves my dignity and protects me?
Should I just not address any of this at all? Let her do what she wants? Let her treat me and our family like this?
