Shall hate be fairer lodged than gentle love?

[Ahoy]

If you choose to say yes to an ex's request for assistance (picking up bunk beds for your kids, for instance) and it is hard, and late, and you're tired...fake a good attitude anyway.

-- Why did you say yes to this? Don't be her rescuer. She's a big girl and can and should solve her own problems now.

When conversing with XW over text or phone, focus on "I, me, we, us, & our" statements (especially since most of those convos are about children). Avoid "You" and "Why". You've heard this stuff before, but I promise that it still works post-D.

-- Why are you conversing with her on the phone? If you're planning things for the kids, I'd keep it short, sweet and in text format so you don't veer off script.

XW is being extremely pleasant and keeping me informed of school events, grades, etc. So, I suppose I am far luckier than some in my situation. No indication whatsoever that she regrets her decision to leave.

-- You will never know. Now is the time for YOU. Whether she has regrets or not is irrelevant to the awesomeness that will be your life when you no longer care what she is thinking relative to you and get on with enjoying your own life (and you have a lot to offer!).

D21...man, is there a "Parent of Juvenile Adults Remedy" book coming out soon? I have made some progress with her, focusing on love, relationships, responsibility, and respect. Seems to be working, and she is listening. I'm listening, too, and trying to help her find the path she wants/needs.

-- You're being an awesome dad. Listening to her is key. Let her find her own path though. Guide her through asking questions and let her find her own answers.


Enjoy your GAL activity with the kids!