Oh my gosh! I was in such a dark place thinking it was unique "we have no true chemistry" is his steadfast point on why we need to D.
This only happened a week ago.
We met in high school, dated since then for 9 years, been married for almost two
His thing is "we never got to explore as adults, were incompatible and don't have natural chemistry."

I remember that from the third year of our relationship on he would say that people who said we were being silly hanging on to a high school love didn't understand how linked we were...that the differences we had (which brought us to were we are now, to a D in his mind) helped us grow and learn. How is it that he actually seemed to think in a more mature way as a younger boy that the "grown up man" he is supposed to be today?