Okabe, I know you said earlier that it's hard for you to read DR with everyone around. You need to find time to read it, ASAP. Right now you're in the midst of a M crisis, the best solution is that book, and you're not reading it. Find an hour a day to read.
Also, have you read Sandi's 37 rules at the top of the board? It is also in that list, although not as directly as it is in DR.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23