BD and 6 months later PA confirmed (2)

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Toots I see your point. I was trying to not get into the why but even in generalizing without specifics I still essentially started to explain my reasons which shouldn't be necessary. I tend to always want to explain why I think something needs done. Thanks for the thoughts, I need to do a better job about making changes for me and S without dragging W into the why.

Barry, thanks for the response also. I really hope I'm not way off base here. I wish I could paint an effective picture about what a phone call looks like for us as W & S communication. With S being autistic he doesn't seem to understand W is on the phone trying to talk to him. At least I don't think so. She gets on the phone and calls things out trying to get him to repeat her, which to some degree he does. That is one thing he will do, repeat the last word or two of most things someone is saying to him. But I have to answer for him and hold the phone to keep him from throwing it and continuously get his attention for her.

Maybe I am just being selfish, but it doesn't feel like S gets anything out of these nightly calls. It seems more to me that she gets to make herself feel better by having them and I have to facilitate that in order for it to happen. Its so tough to know what to do. It makes her feel better but makes me feel worse every night.