Gwen....I remember what ur feeling, all to well. Let it pass over you. As for him changing over night.....well to YOU, that is what happened. But....hon his change had been happening, he just hid it well. They start at least a yr. in my opinion before they work up the courge to leave. If there was one true and honest thing my mlc husband said to me it was..... "I tried"......when he said that, with tears in his eyes, I know he was telling the truth. My mind went back over the months when having small arguments he would say things like he had been unhappy for awhile. Then we would make up and I would just think it was something said in the heat of an argument and get past it. They try Gwen, but the pull is just to great, esp if a ow comes along. The best thing for u to do.......is the hardest thing, and that is go on with your life. I know it's easier said than done, but u are going to have to reach way down and grab all the strength you can muster. Your strength is there, you just have to reach for it. The more you keep busy and gal, the better. Plus he will take notice. You see Gwen, for some reason they think we will be right where they left us. Show him different. He will notice but you HAVE to do this for you. This is not a game plan to win him back, he will see right thru that anyway, this is first and foremost for you! If he notices then that's a bonus. Finding myself, even though I didn't even know I was lost, was the best thing about my divorce. I found strength that I never thought I had. I gave become a whole new me. My ex wouldn't even know me. I am not talking just physical either. There are changes to be made Gwen. Marriage and kids kinda take over our lives and we lose ourselves. Find YOU again. Take this time to do what you like. Will there be sad times....of course, Cry and get past it each time. It's ok to be sad, just don't get stuck there. I have been there and so have others. You will come out of this much stronger.....with or without ur h.
