jim0987 #4 - strengthening my inner cat

[jim0987]

Im confused as to whether last 24hrs were good or not.

So my PMA was not good in fact I was hacked off about my situation. Still I played with the kids and got them into bed happy.

My W was kind of excluded from it all and I was curt/terse with her. Asked her not to talk accross me. Told her that I didn't really like the dress she wants D3 to wear for the nursery photos today but that I will put her in that as that's what W wants. She tried to tell me I'm wrong so I said I had a right to an opinion.

I think I probably cane accross as in a right grump. Not good. She was also in a bad mood so tense all round.

D3 had an accident in the night. I sorted her and stripped the sheets but didn't put the stuff straight in the machine. I intended to do it this morning but it was a 180 opportunity missed.

W was very cold this morning so I basically ignored her, kept to one word answers, and instead made the kids giggle - so much so they didn't notice her leaving for work.

So my confusion comes from how I should be when interacting with my W - friendly, upbeat and talkative or distant and uncaring. I can't seem to find a middle ground as she seems constantly angry or sad.

This is how its been for a long time and so its difficult to see how this might give her pause for thought.

She has said I was uncaring and unsupportive and to be honest that's what I'm now doing because she has said she doesn't want me and is having an affair (sort of). To do otherwise would be pursuing wouldn't it?

She's out with OM tonight so we will see what that brings.