BD and 6 months later PA confirmed (2)

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M: "Bedtime was 15 minutes ago...please stop texting at nights. We will see you on Thursday for your visit."

Hi Bunches, I think it would have been an idea to leave it at this above. The stuff that came after that didn't seem too useful - and read a bit like going on in circles.

Perhaps if she comes back to you further - asking why it's a problem - you could just reinforce with 'we can discuss it Thursday' and turn your phone off.

I don''t think it's helpful to say things like - 'you will only lie again' & 'you obviously don't respect me' etc. It sounds as though your feelings about lies to you and respect for you are getting tied up with discussions about contact with your S.

It also sounds as though now your W feels you aren't 'letting' her talk to him. Perhaps you could have more of a negotiation - where you say to your W...the nightly call is no longer working for you. We need to change this - or just limit the call to a couple of minutes and don't have the group time...

It could look as though you are trying to limit her contact with your S. because you are cross she has lied/not respected you - which I don't think is a good road to go down.

Anyway - just my thoughts...hope these are useful :-)