But also consider... Why do you want to talk about it? I don't want my marriage problems to be what people think about when they hang out with me. It's easier to be my best self when it's my self that's getting the attention and not my problems.
Just to pound this nail a little harder... I have a friend who is an ultra marathoner. When people talk to her there's always a certain wariness, like the insane distances she runs, and the obsessiveness she brings to it, make her a slightly different breed of human from the rest of us. If I'm going to be set apart, I want it to be for something cool.
You make a great point. I think what I was trying to say is that I don't necessarily want to talk about it, in fact, I'd rather be distracted from it for a while but it's like they are avoiding me all together just because I'm in this situation. You know? I haven't heard from most of them and when I do it's an impersonal text after three weeks saying "thinking of you!"
You know? I mean these are people I used to see weekly or close to that and now I'm reduced to a text every three weeks? And I didn't over talk about my situation so now they're feeling uncomfortable or have weary ears...
I'm just confused by where they've gone. It's crickets around here.
I guess I do know who my real friends are but man, I didn't think I'd have close to none. Granted, my friends have kids and all work and have very busy lives so its probably totally not about me at all.
And I want to be known for something cool, too maybell. Something I AM, not just something I do (or not do like run ultra marathons).
